Peeps, her topic today is a fabulous one and very true. Having a genuine support system within your community is priceless. With my extended family living so far from Fortville, I am blessed to have found a stellar support system around me in my neighbors and friends. One of the reasons I adore this town so much - people actually still care, actually still do nice things just because and actually still wave on the street. Cheers to Fortville! -Jenny
I love this quote from Albert Einstein, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” Who knew Albert Einstein was also so emotionally intelligent? You see, I agree with this quote…we are made to live with and for others! The problem is our society tells us otherwise. Our society tries to convenience us of one of two lies.
The first lie is that we already do have a strong support system. We are so easily “connected” to the world around us that it creates a false sense of community. We can share our joys, accomplishments, hurts and frustrations on Facebook and instantly feel connected to hundreds of other people. The problem is, this isn’t genuine community. Genuine community requires true connectedness, sharing all parts of ourselves (the good, the bad, and the ugly), and living life together (being with one another in good times and bad). These are things you can’t get from internet relationships.
The second lie is that we don’t need a support system. The world around us tries to convince us that needing others is a sign of weakness and that we should be strong and independent. In reality, I think cultivating a strong support community requires a lot of strength because truly letting others into your life can be risky…but it is a risk worth taking.
Often in my practice I have clients tell me things like “you’re the only person I can talk to” or “I am basically paying you to be my friend.” While I love what I do and am honored when people invite me to be a part of their journey, I find these statements profoundly sad. It is sad to me that so many people find it difficult to find a strong support system.
Personally, I really began to see the importance of a strong support system after our daughter was born. Before that I think I always took it for granted, but after my daughter was born I began to realize that there is no way my husband and I could raise this child alone! We needed others to pour into her life as well. We needed grandparents to love and spoil her in ways that we cannot. We needed friends who have different gifts than we do to help her see life from a different perspective. We needed aunts and uncles, cousins, pastors, and many, many friends to pour into her sweet little life. And not just to pour into her life but ours too. People to guide us in parenting, to be willing to babysit, to bring us meals during difficult times, and people to just sit with and talk about the joys and trials of everyday life. We needed a community for our daughter and for ourselves.
We have been blessed with a great support system which is part of why it makes me so sad to see others missing out on this crucial component in life. I want others to experience the joy of living life with and for others.
So, take a moment to think about this, who is your support system? I hope that answer comes easily, but if it doesn't, know that you are not alone. There are many others struggling to find a good support systems. Here are a few places you can begin to look for people to add to your support system:
-Community Events (we have a ton of these in Fortville...just get out and get involved!)
-Find a hobby and start a group meeting with others
-Deeper relationships with friends and family
Meet Kelly Shores and learn more about Restoration Counseling by clicking here. Follow them on Facebook as well. They often blog about helpful topics for mamas and families! So glad to have them here in our community. What a great resource!
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