Friday, August 28, 2015

Fit Friday - Finding Wellness in Genuine Community

Today is our last guest post from Kelly Shores of Restoration Counseling for this particular series of Fit Friday. Kelly we have loved your wise words and great topics. Thank-you. I am so glad you are here in Fortville for everyone. Thank-you for being an advertising sponsor with Fortville Mama! 

Peeps, her topic today is a fabulous one and very true. Having a genuine support system within your community is priceless. With my extended family living so far from Fortville, I am blessed to have found a stellar support system around me in my neighbors and friends. One of the reasons I adore this town so much - people actually still care, actually still do nice things just because and actually still wave on the street. Cheers to Fortville! -Jenny


I love this quote from Albert Einstein, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” Who knew Albert Einstein was also so emotionally intelligent? You see, I agree with this quote…we are made to live with and for others! The problem is our society tells us otherwise. Our society tries to convenience us of one of two lies.

The first lie is that we already do have a strong support system. We are so easily “connected” to the world around us that it creates a false sense of community. We can share our joys, accomplishments, hurts and frustrations on Facebook and instantly feel connected to hundreds of other people. The problem is, this isn’t genuine community. Genuine community requires true connectedness, sharing all parts of ourselves (the good, the bad, and the ugly), and living life together (being with one another in good times and bad). These are things you can’t get from internet relationships.

The second lie is that we don’t need a support system. The world around us tries to convince us that needing others is a sign of weakness and that we should be strong and independent. In reality, I think cultivating a strong support community requires a lot of strength because truly letting others into your life can be risky…but it is a risk worth taking.

Often in my practice I have clients tell me things like “you’re the only person I can talk to” or “I am basically paying you to be my friend.” While I love what I do and am honored when people invite me to be a part of their journey, I find these statements profoundly sad. It is sad to me that so many people find it difficult to find a strong support system.

Personally, I really began to see the importance of a strong support system after our daughter was born. Before that I think I always took it for granted, but after my daughter was born I began to realize that there is no way my husband and I could raise this child alone! We needed others to pour into her life as well. We needed grandparents to love and spoil her in ways that we cannot. We needed friends who have different gifts than we do to help her see life from a different perspective. We needed aunts and uncles, cousins, pastors, and many, many friends to pour into her sweet little life. And not just to pour into her life but ours too. People to guide us in parenting, to be willing to babysit, to bring us meals during difficult times, and people to just sit with and talk about the joys and trials of everyday life. We needed a community for our daughter and for ourselves.

We have been blessed with a great support system which is part of why it makes me so sad to see others missing out on this crucial component in life. I want others to experience the joy of living life with and for others.

So, take a moment to think about this, who is your support system? I hope that answer comes easily, but if it doesn't, know that you are not alone. There are many others struggling to find a good support systems. Here are a few places you can begin to look for people to add to your support system:

-Church/church groups

-Book Clubs

-Parenting groups

-Community Events (we have a ton of these in Fortville...just get out and get involved!)

-Find a hobby and start a group meeting with others

-Deeper relationships with friends and family

-Kelly

Meet Kelly Shores and learn more about Restoration Counseling by clicking here. Follow them on Facebook as well. They often blog about helpful topics for mamas and families! So glad to have them here in our community. What a great resource!

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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Mama Tip Tuesday - Time To Fly

This week has been tough.
It's my oldest first week of kindergarten. Mama bird has pushed her out of the nest, but she is still sitting on the ground crying for help. Mama bird's heart strings are being tugged horribly.
She won't eat and doesn't want to sleep. Dad is just as torn as he tried to drop her off this morning as she stood at the door and cried. She wants to fly back to the nest to be with mama.
My dear it is time to fly. You are stronger then you think. Smarter then you know. Braver then you give yourself credit.
What you don't know is that you have done more for me then I have done for you. You have made me strong and changed me for the better. That cannot replace the sleepless nights, the diaper changes, or the constant worry. I couldn't have done the things I've done without you.
You are strong but you just don't know it yet. Your beautiful heart will touch many. I cannot hold you back and keep you all to myself.
My darling you must fly.
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Friday, August 21, 2015

Fit Friday - Part II of Finding Your Fitness Niche

Turn Your Personal Journey Into Personal Triumph



Two weeks ago we talked about how so many have been able to find self confidence through their fitness and wellness journey.  But what happens when you fall off the wagon, stumble as you walk or have a “life gets in the way moment”?  How do you continue on that journey and stay the course to your ultimate goals?  It’s difficult, yes.  But not impossible.  There are two things you must remember when you come across that bump in the road. Number 1: you are important; you are worth it!  Number 2: you are not alone; you have people in your corner; you can ask for help.  Remembering these two things can turn your personal journey into personal triumph.  You will not only be rewarding yourself with the tenacity to get back on the horse, but you will also be rewarded by the overwhelming feeling of “I can.”

Share with me in these personal stories of my very own clients who have had those stumbles, but have also been able to realize so much more about themselves - all because they asked for help and found their fitness niche.

….my own personal journey to better health and wellness is never ending. I have battled my weight the better part of my life. I now have a trainer that goes above and beyond to help me be successful in my wellness journey.  (SG)
….when I started my journey at Blue Seas, I was overweight, low on energy and run down in my life. Gaining the changes in my body by losing weight and getting healthy again after the birth of my son also gave me great mental and emotional benefits. Whenever I have had ups and downs in my life, I can always rely on my trainer and the members to celebrate my ups and help through the downs. (CR)
….Blue Seas has changed my life. It has a chain reaction on other people in my life to encourage to become healthier. I leave feeling energized and inspired. I personally have gained more muscle that I thought I would ever have and more confidence in myself to do things I never thought I would do. (KM)
….I never envisioned myself becoming one of those “crazy exercise people”. I was given a gift certificate and thought it was a nice gift, but had only planned on using the certificate sessions and never going back. WRONG! 2 ½ years later, I’m part of the Blue Seas Family and have become a runner who completed my very first half marathon! (AS)
….the fear of being judged was a big factor in me not stepping foot in a gym until the age of 54. I have never felt judged at Blue Seas. I feel like everyone there is rooting for me, as I am for them. They are the most supportive group of people I have ever been around. Many of the other members are dealing with some of the same challenges in life that I am. Their encouragement gives me the confidence to push myself and the desire to want to do better. (KD)
….my own personal journey began as needing more routine and consistency in my health and fitness. Blue Seas has helped me stay focused and continues to push me to be the healthiest me. The support from everyone there is tremendous and I always look forward to coming in. (CM)
….I was struggling recently with my professional career and it was starting to make be feel anxiety and depression. I felt so much better both mentally and physically after each workout due to the support of both my trainer and everyone at the gym. It is like a family atmosphere and I continue to look forward to my weekly workouts. (RM)
….my journey at Blue Seas has been amazing. I do not just have a trainer and gym, I have a gym family and a friend. My gym family has supported me through several surgeries, family trauma/drama and joyous occasions. When my husband lost his job and was unemployed for over a year, my trainer and gym family pulled together and made sure I did not quit. They looked for jobs for my husband, they secretly donated money so I could stay at the gym when money was very tight. I could not have continued on this healthy journey without all the love and support. I am not where I want to be in my weight loss journey, but I am where I am suppose to be working out. Best trainer and best gym, no question! (LS)
….Blue Seas is not only a gym it is an extended family. I go for many reasons such as maintaining my Crohn’s disease, keeping my energy up, trying to be the healthiest I can but along the way I gained a family; a large network of people who care and support one another.
….In 2012, I was at my highest weight and lowest fitness level. After being encouraged by my wife to join and seeing the results and personal changes that she underwent, I joined Blue Seas fitness family. Although in the beginning I wanted to quit and just accept the fact that I was too old and too out of shape to continue working out and eating healthy. My trainer wouldn’t let that happen. The other members wouldn’t let that happen. She and the members became cheerleaders for each other. And when I say fitness family, it truly is a family. Where there are days that someone is struggling with the workout or eating healthy, another member is there encouraging them and helping them along. I’m in better shape physically and mentally than I have been my entire adult life, and feel better overall. I still have many fitness goals that I want to achieve, and I know that I can attain them. I owe it to Blue Seas and my Blue Seas fitness family! (SS)

Stop and think? Did you relate to any of these stories? Maybe that is you - afraid to be judged.  Maybe that is you - too old and out of shape.  Maybe that is you - fighting a disease, physical or mental ailment. Maybe that is you - struggling everyday to find a way to become that better you!  These are just some of the triumphs I could share; there are hundreds more but I want everyone to know that it is possible to get moving; get healthier; feel better.  They each have found what makes them feel better, what gives them confidence - they have discovered their fitness niche.  

Stay tuned in two weeks for our final chapter of “Finding Your Fitness Niche”.

In Health and Wellness,
Toby

This Fit Friday post is brought to you by Blue Seas Fitness and Wellness Center. Thank-you for your support of Fortville Mama and local family fun in and around Hancock County, Indiana. All thoughts and opinions are our own. Thank-you to the businesses that help support Fortville Mama. Your support is allowing us to make 2015 even cooler than 2014!


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Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Wandering Wednesday: U-Pick Apple Season at Tuttle Orchards


Okay, okay I know it's just in McCordsville, and it's not really "wandering" all that far, but I can't help it, peeps. I adore fall at Tuttle Orchards. ADORE! And I tend to wander over there quite a bit September through October. Check out a previous post on our top ten favorites at Tuttle Orchards. Can you guess which is my #1?

U-pick apple season opens August 28th, plus check out all the additional fun upcoming events to kick-off the season, including Tuttle's Caramel Apple Festival Saturday September 12th. Plus a special Mom's Playdate Week September 14th-18th. There will be NO SCHOOL TOUR GROUPS that week - only Mamas and littles enjoying a less crowded experience and playdate fun! Make sure to check out their website for a $1 off coupon for the play area. Gotta love savings! Yeah for Tuttle Orchards - one of our most favorite places around!

 
 
June - August 2015 Wandering Wednesdays brought to you by Indy Zoom Groom. Thank-you for your support of Fortville Mama and local family fun in and around Hancock County, Indiana. All thoughts and opinions are our own. Thank-you to the businesses that help support Fortville Mama. Your support is allowing us to make 2015 even cooler than 2014!




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Friday, August 14, 2015

Farm To Table Series - Local Fresh To Your Store and Table!

Ever wonder exactly how your grocery store got all its yummy fresh stuff? How exactly does it travel from the farm to your table? Since early this year, we've been oh so lucky to go on a Indiana Family of Farmers Farm to Table journey and discover exactly how it all happens. It's been such an awesome ride too! We've met farmers, seen farm technology in action, explored processing plants and even a local Kroger!
 
Speaking of the local grocery store... It's no wonder I get distracted and lost in my own little world every time I go to the store. Yes, this mama is easily distracted! With 3 kids in tow it's more like a wonderland circus going to the store! I walk in for milk and leave with a cart full.
 
But how exactly does the oh so good for you milk get there? Let's start from the very beginning. The Cow. We visited Sam Schwoppe with her beautiful Prairie Farms milk maidens in Southern Indiana earlier this year. Sam feeds and milks her maidens twice a day. All while putting in more hours caring for them then the normal 9-5 desk job. Once the milk leaves the cow, it travels through a series of tubes to a holding tank. Then rests in a holding tank. The truck transfers it to the processing plant where it goes through the pasteurization process.


The milk is then bottled and ready to go to your local grocery store.


Not only do we get nutritious milk from cows like Sam's dairy maidens, but yummy dairy products such as cheese, yogurt, cottage cheese and ice cream.

 
Jenny, my co-Fortville Mama, was lucky to run into these cool gents earlier this month at a new grocery store's grand opening. Sure do love all the local fresh variety from Prairie Farms!

 
 
Some grocery tips I learned while on the Kroger grocery tour were:
  • Shop the outer edges of the store. You'll find dairy, meat, fruits and vegetables. 
  • End caps often draw you in and seem like a great deal but they are not always nutritious for you.
  • Make sure to look up and down while shopping. The highest paying marketers want you to see their product at eye level. No, they are not always the healthiest choices!
  • Last and best of all in our book BUY LOCAL.
#FarmsMatter, peeps

Disclaimer: I am a Farm to Table Ambassador for Indiana Dairy and this is sponsored post. However, all thoughts and opinions are my own. 

Fit Friday - Creating Rituals of Connection

I've been seeing lots of back to school pictures on social that are tradition for families. For example someone posted a special after first day ice cream treat with her two kiddos. One a high schooler and the other a middle schooler. She noted that it had been going on for 11 years. How cool the same back to school ritual for 11 years. That is some mama love right there. Today the very cool and wise Kelly Shores of Fortville's Restoration Counseling has for us a great guest blog post on why rituals of connection are so very important for families. Love having her as a guest blogger!

When I say the word rituals what comes to mind? You may think of religious traditions or specific holiday traditions. But do you think of the things that you do on a daily basis to create connection with your family members? For many of us, that may sound like a strange idea. But John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman institute have found that couples and families that have rituals of connection, or patterns they can count on over and over, have stronger relationships than those who do not have these rituals.
 

Rituals are even more important in our fast paced society where families don't have the same time for connection that they once did. Research shows that 67% of families are not eating dinner together on a regular basis and of those who are, 1⁄2 have the TV on during dinner! This is a huge change from when many of us were growing up and highlights the importance of creating rituals to increase connections in your relationship.
 

So, you may still be wondering “what does she mean by rituals?” A ritual of connection is anything that you do on a consistent basis to create a bond in your relationship. Many of you may already have some of these rituals in place. Do you have a specific bedtime routine? Do you make sure to kiss good­bye and hello when leaving and returning? Do you have regular date nights? These are all examples of rituals!
 

If you already do these things, great! If not, let's look at some ways to create rituals in your relationships...I think you will find them enjoyable and rewarding. You may begin by sitting down with your spouse and/or family and talking about some rituals you would like to create in your family. Talk about the ritual, what you would like it to look like, and why it is important to you. You may also talk about how that ritual played out in your family and what you want it to look like now. Finally, talk about implementing these rituals and how you will help each other to remember the importance of rituals in your family.
 

Here are some examples of rituals you may consider:
 
  • ­Creating a specific bedtime ritual
  • ­having a specific ritual for leaving and returning (ie kiss, hug, talking about the day, etc.)
  • ­Celebrations (what traditions are important for special occasions?)
  • ­Doing schoolwork
  • ­Family dinners
  • ­Dates and romantic evenings
  • ­Taking care of one another when one is sick
  • ­Apologizing after and argument
  • ­Daily time for conversation
  • ­Church/religious activities
  • ­Participation in community events

These are just a few ideas of how to create rituals in your relationships. What ideas do you have? I hope you find creating rituals a rewarding part of creating connection in your relationships!
 
-Kelly

Meet Kelly Shores and learn more about Restoration Counseling by clicking here. Follow them on Facebook as well. They often blog about helpful topics for mamas and families! So glad to have them here in our community. What a great resource!

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Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Wandering Wednesday - Indiana State Fair

Farms Matter, Peeps.

Celebrate The Year of the Farmer at the Indiana State Fair and Don't Break the Bank: Check Out Our Top 7 Tips for a Low Cost Stress-Free Super Fun Family Day at the Indiana State Fair!


Oh how I love the Indiana State Fair. I hate the heat of summer, but I'll overlook it for a trip to the state fair. I love the animals, the farmers, the people, the sights and especially the food.


I got to explore everything the Indiana State Fair has to offer with my sweet baby girl this week and a whole gaggle of Indiana bloggers that I adore. It was a wonderful mama/daughter day. She enjoys so many of the same things I do, and I loved every minute of it. It did make me miss my mama a bit though. She adored simple fun.

I'm a huge fan of low cost family fun. Who isn't? I hate spending too much for a family outing. It makes me cringe a bit. Did you know there are tons of ways to enjoy the Indiana State Fair on a budget? Yep-a-roo. Here's my top 7 tips for a low cost stress-free super fun family day at the Indiana State Fair.
  • Go on a discount day. There are $2 Tuesday, BMV day with 50% savings, Hoosier Lottery Day with Meijer Family Day both with big savings. Click here to see all discount days details.
  • Park at Glendale Mall and ride the Indiana State Fair Shuttle for FREE. Saves you the $5 parking cost for the fair lots.
  • Pack a few water bottles in the kiddos wagon. Drinks are overpriced in my opinion. Leaves you more spending dollars for red velvet deep fried Oreos, corndogs, turkey legs as big as your head and delish roasted corn.
  • Spend the $2 and ride the fair tractor train around the whole entire fair. Baby girl and I sat and shared a corn dog while we rode and saw all the sights around the whole fair. When then knew what we wanted to spend our time walking to go explore more.

  • Love, love the Dairy Barn! It's an Indiana State Fair tradition. Plus fresh delicious dairy items on the menu, from grilled cheese to milk shakes and everything in between. So yummy. The prices are not bad at all and baby bottles are filled for FREE. #WinnersDrinkMilk peeps

  • Visit all the animal barns. See the biggest boar, the brand new chicks, the piglets, the baby calf. All FREE fun. My kids love the animal barns. Then enjoy the cool air conditioned Harvest Pavilion and Purdue Extension Ag/Hort Building. So many great FREE things to enjoy in both. Like cool canned good sculptures!

  • This year is the The Year of the Farmer. In celebration Indiana's Family of Farmers have fun large boards all over the fair with featured farmers pics. Take a moment and snap a selfie with a farmer. Post your picture(s) and tag @FamilyofFarmers on twitter or instagram and use #FarmerSelfie. Each picture shared helps earn a donation to Feeding Indiana's Hungry and gets you entered into a daily drawing for a chance at a $50 Kroger card! Look at that you could possibly make money at the fair! Daily you can find the featured farmers and their families around the fair as well. Stop and chat. You'll be glad you did.

This fair princess is a farmer too. Love that!
June - August 2015 Wandering Wednesdays brought to you by Indy Zoom Groom. Thank-you for your support of Fortville Mama and local family fun in and around Hancock County, Indiana. All thoughts and opinions are our own. Thank-you to the businesses that help support Fortville Mama. Your support is allowing us to make 2015 even cooler than 2014!




*** New in 2015, advertising sponsorship available with Fortville Mama. Sponsor a single post or bring our viewers Mama Tip TuesdaysWandering Wednesdays, Artisan Thursdays, Fit Fridays or Hancock County Treasures biweekly blog series. Or why not be super cool and go all out and be our title sponsor? Email pamediasolutions(at)gmail(dot)com to learn more.